tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044166228612663288.post35360057649919327..comments2024-03-01T11:18:22.535-05:00Comments on Inside Nancy's Noodle: 13 Reasons Why: 13 topics to considerNancyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05894799922341495196noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044166228612663288.post-60669686493372666452017-04-27T19:16:59.142-04:002017-04-27T19:16:59.142-04:00I haven't seen the series. I'm not sure t...I haven't seen the series. I'm not sure that I will. It was kind of like watching Father of the Bride when I was planning my wedding. Too close to home. <br />I am the mother of 2 boys -- 21 & 23. The 23 year old sailed through high school. The 21 did not. When he was 14, he told me that he would kill himself if I made him go back to 'that school'. He is not dramatic. He is a low key kid. I believed him and we moved him to a school that he chose where he finished with good grades and a scholarship to a good college where he is very happy. He's been in therapy since he was 13 and on anti-depressants. <br />I asked him recently if he would like to go back and see his teachers at the second school. "No, Mom. I loathed high school."<br />I think it hard for teens to communicate to their parents when things aren't going the way 'they are supposed to'. I cherished the time in the car on the way home from school as those 15-20 really gave me a window into what was going on in his head. When he started to drive himself, I invented reasons weekly why I needed him to go with me somewhere just to have that space to listen to whatever music he was into and peek into how he was doing. His art helped. Getting him a personal trainer helped. Having a great doctor was crucial. <br />I am thankful to God that we have passed through that time. He still has rough patches but nothing like those days. I give thanks every night for his wonderful psychiatrist and Lexapro. <br />One of his buddies has a brother that is experiencing his own version of high school hell. I asked and my son told me it was ok to call the mom. When I did, she sobbed for a solid hour wondering what she had done wrong and what could she do to make it better. All I have is 1)get a good doctor that the kid can connect to and 2)get a good doctor for you. <br />I think that if this series had been available when he was in high school, I would have tried to watch it with him. And it would have been a good opener to talk about suicide and what it does to the left behind. I'm not sure that he would have agreed to it even though we were and are pretty close. <br />Thank you for the thought provoking 13 list. Being the parent of a teen is a scary thing. Scarier still if high school is hell. Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01803034363617289536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044166228612663288.post-40086309136760917432017-04-26T23:30:40.727-04:002017-04-26T23:30:40.727-04:00I agree with you that this series didn't seem ...I agree with you that this series didn't seem to glorify suicide. The real story here seems to be more about bullying. I have been disappointed by all the negative publicity that has been directed towards this series. I love the fact that you have turned it around as a real opportunity for parents to talk to their teens about some real issues. I have been disappointed by a number of parents who have read some of the negative reports written about this series and who have just forbidden their teens from watching without taking the time to view the series for themselves and formulating their own opinions, a real missed opportunity for some real honest serious dialogue. These are tough times for teens and they could use some real support from adults rather than adults ignoring that these issues exist. Thank you Nancy, you really nailed this one as always.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com